It is hard to know what to do when a friend loses a loved one. You want to help in some way, but it is hard to know what is right or wrong. Too often the fear of doing the wrong thing will keep you from doing anything at all. This is especially sad because those that are going through the grieving process need all the love and support they can get. Use the following suggestions to show you care.
Choosing a Gift
Presenting someone with a small gift is often a wonderful way to let them know you are thinking of them. Memorial items are always a good idea. This could be photo frame, a garden stone engraved with a poem, or a personalized keepsake. Angel figurines from the Willow Tree Collection also make nice gifts. Several versions can be found from Hallmark. If the gift is for a close female friend, you could even choose a piece of jewelry or accessory item.
The Gift of Time
More often than not a grieving person needs nothing more than some company. Bringing a food items such as baked goods or a casserole is the perfect excuse to show up at their door. Let them guide the events that follow. If they need to talk, be a good listener. Grief is often softened when one can tell their story. They may even want to remain quiet, but still know your close by. Suggest watching a movie to pass the time.
All too often grieving family members are left with an unbelievable amount of bills to take care of. Funeral expenses, medical bills, time off, as well as the normal monthly bills can become quite a burden. A gift card, check, or even cash tucked inside of a sympathy card is always appreciated. This gift is appropriate for those that are very close to you as well as people that may be simply a neighbor or co-worker. Any small token or kind act will be greatly appreciated by a friend that has lost someone dear to them. Don’ shy away. Instead, try one of these suggestions to let them know that they are continually in your thoughts and prayers.