Sunday, August 7, 2011

Tricks To Survive Mean Girls At School

The mean girls you see on TV exist in real life. Sure, you get a good laugh with the mean tricks they play on their victims. Try being the victim of their pranks and I am sure that you will lose that happy face in less than a minute. I was lucky enough not to experience this in high school but my friend was not.
Those mean girls did every imaginable prank on her. They made her do their homework, stuck chewed gums on her skirt, and asked her to do errands that only humiliated her more. I knew that that bullying was not tolerable for my friend so I asked my mom for her advice in dealing with this. With the help of my mom, she was able to recover. Mom:
• Talked..a lot. Mom told her that she can share her experiences. She made her feel that she can freely talk about anything without judgment.
• Pointed out her great qualities. This, of course, made my friend feel special and good about herself. The mean girls are immature so they don’t realize all this just yet. That’s what my mom said. Jenny was a straight “A” student so mom pointed this out to her. With her brains, she was able to do many experiments or write about so many things that I did not even understand.
• Shared her experiences. Apparently, mom was a popular mean girl when she was way younger. How ironic. After a terrible incident with her “victim”, she just stopped being a mean girl because she learned her lesson the hard way. Mom said that the bullying will eventually stop.
• Showed her support. We saw to it that we (mom and me) were always with her every step of the way so she can easily cope with the stress and the bullying. We also held weekly sessions so she can vent out her frustrations about the things that were bothering her.
• Did not fight her battles for her. It hurt to see my friend crying because of all the things they put her through but mom and I stood by her. We did not fight her battles for her because this would have only worsened her situation. Aside from that, it would have also hindered her from learning skills to manage difficult situations and relationships.
• Tried role playing. Mom acted as if she was the mean girl assaulting Jenny. Jenny practiced her “speech” to mom. She showed us how she will confront the bully. Mom advised her to do this in person and privately to make the confrontation more effective.
• Encouraged her. We told her that other people don’t have the right to do this. Instead of concentrating on the bullying, we recommended her to concentrate on the more important things in her life. She had friends she could trust and lean on. In addition to that, we asked her to pursue her hobbies and other interests to keep her occupied.
The great thing about this experience was that it taught Jenny to be a stronger person. It made her become assertive but the situation calls for it. The best part is that she learned how to handle herself and others well. The things mom did for her did her great.
You can do the same thing for your child if he or she is going through the same thing. Try out the tips above. Maybe these will help you.

Author’s Bio: Marcy Gray likes sharing her tips and tricks, and opinion through writing. In addition, she likes to write about various topics such as the first years wave stroller and britax b ready stroller.

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